About a month ago Chase’s headstone arrived and was placed upon his grave. It took quite a long time to finally make a decision about what it should look like and say. Let’s face it . . . How to you honour and reflect all that was special and important about the life of someone with a piece of granite?
We know the struggle that comes with such a task as there is so much more to be said and so much more that had been left unfinished. Having gone through and still continuing to go through many different stages of mourning we felt that all decisions made about this piece of rock, that is going to last longer than time itself, needed to be as perfect as possible. Perfect for a little boy who knew all about love, laughter, fun, family, and God. A little boy who knew the power of a smile, the importance of a hug, and the pleasure of all that God had created.
As we reflect upon the last few weeks and the feelings of seeing a permanent marker of Chase’s final resting spot we are reminded of the words written by Linda Ellis. We find great comfort and solace in the fact that Chase truly did live his “dash” to the fullest every single day, and because of this he will forever be remembered in the hearts and minds of all who knew and loved him so.
by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone,
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent YOUR dash?
Chase Made A Difference . . . Will You?